It all seems really scary, I'm not looking for ONS but want to meet and try to get a relationship going with a single mum.Haven't been out for years and honestly have been putting it off.I've honestly started to believe a woman without a child of her own isn't interested in a single father!? Is this purely because the woman isn't prepared to share her time with someone that isn't her child?
Same goes for someone who’s not over their divorce and has beliefs that affect their ability to be committed.I personally know people who have gotten together while one party was separated, and in one case the wife refused to sign so they had to wait for it to lapse and got married as soon as it did a few years later, and in the other instances where it worked out, there was no faffing about with the divorce, Future Faking etc.What we forget is that even if a person hasn’t just exited a relationship, aside from knowing our own boundaries (which can rule out certain things that we’ve already made a decision on in advance of), we cannot get all of the answers upfront or have someone tell us what ‘the ending’ will be.Each situation is different but what you can say with a high degree of certainty is that someone who’s just fallen out of their marriage, who’s still in reconciliation negotiations, who’s still very influenced by their spouse, and who has been separated for a long time ‘just because’, is going to bring pain into your life.It usually has nothing to do with the fact you have a child.
There is such a difference between what is available for men and woman.
I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.
We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.
How has everyone else coped venturing back out on the dating scene after the end of an important relationship in your life?
Has it been painful or disappointing, or are there still women out there who believe in love? I know beacuse I was a single dad who was in a relatonship for 6 years and after that it took me about 2 years to finally really say I love you to someone special and yet it is still not perfect.
They are raising small kids and are looking for someone to be a partner.