For those who have lost a spouse and are looking to date again, here are ten tips to help you successfully navigate the dating waters.There's no specific time period one should wait before dating again.
I decided to trust that my body was telling me ‘it’s OK! When I was so wrapped up in the sadness of losing Mark, I had no space to let someone in. He and I met a month later and spent seven hours together on our first date.For the first year after her husband Mort died of cancer, Mary Childs, now 68, looked mainly to her two sisters and her quilting friends for comfort and a social connection.”I couldn’t do much more than that," says the Lakewood, CO, retired nurse.One is ready to date again whenever solitude gives way to loneliness.It is natural to want a partner, but the partner is not a substitute.“One should wait until THEY feel they are ready.How long does a widow/widower typically wait to start dating again? I was lonely for several years before my husband died.
I would have been dating again within a year if I had not been in a car accident that put me out of action for 9 months.Also, if the person was terminally ill and that illness took a long time to run it’s course, the widowed person may have done a lot of grieving prior to the actual occurrence of death and might be ready to date earlier than ‘the experts’ predict.For me, it was 18 months before I considered dating again.I'm including this section of the book specifically for any widowers who might be reading it.Dating again after the death of a spouse can be an awkward experience.”On the one occasion that I attended a couples’ function with friends from our past, I was totally uncomfortable.” Indeed, many people who lose a spouse often feel like when it comes to socializing, it's a couples' world.