Translation: If you say you are going to do something like invite her to go out with your friends this weekend , even if you don't actually ever mention it again, she is still going to fixate more on the fact that you it and then didn't do it rather than just the fact that you didn't do it.
With regard to calling after the date, it is better to say, "I will talk to you soon" as opposed to "I will talk to you tomorrow." Women take these type of statements very literally and they notice when that call doesn't come " at all.
Talking to your date about the other people you are dating while on the date gives a mixed message.
Don’t understand why that amazing evening ended with an out-of-the-blue remark that made you wonder where you stood with him? Unsure why he seems to act insanely jealous one moment and then, play it cool when you flirt it up with other guys just to make something of his confusing behavior? Afraid he’s keeping you ‘on the line’ as a time filler until the right tick of time brings him his Ms. Or terrified that takes it as a given that you’d invest in him whilst he can get away without much effort? Mixed signals from a guy are commonplace – an art at which guys are top dog! They are the undisputed kings of creating confusion and can’t seem to undo the blurred lines between flitty and flirty.
And if you are dating one such guy sending mixed signals and REALLY like him, do not despair.
Not sure if he’s stringing you along or is open to something concrete in the future?
Cannot decode his pattern of blowing hot and cold with you? Worried that he has slipped into a pattern of being available at his convenience?
Well, from what I can tell, that typically means he is acting weakly, and he needs to do the opposite. When we’re talking about romantic relationships, that means be assertive. If you like the way things are going, commit to her.
If you’re on the fence, make a decision one way or the other. While those simple ideas are all well and good—and appealing, as we men like to think of ourselves as simple creatures—that doesn’t mean there’s a simple answer.
Sure, if a man is ambiguous in his interactions with a woman, it could very well mean that he just needs to grow a pair.
But it also could be all sorts of other reasons—from being clueless to being too smart for his own good and everything in between. So without further ado, here’s some male perspective on what you might call the crisis of the assertive gentleman.“There's a lot of truth to the statement ‘man up,’” Lewis says.
Just pick an outfit that makes you feel confident, show up to that birthday party, commit to being your best self, spend some time with him, and let your connection do its thing.
If your relationship takes a step forward that night, then no one will remember how the invitation scenario went.
Choose to relax, and then alleviate any unnecessary pressure that you may be tempted to put on the situation.